RANT - JILY VS SNILY - My problem with this phrase.
Okay, so here’s my problem with this. Yes, Snape loved Lily a lot, and it was great. I appreciate Snape and Lily’s relationship so much. I think it was beautiful, I wish they had made up, I loved their friendship and it makes me cry every time I read The Prince’s Tale. But the truth of the matter is, yeah, Snape loved Lily, but James actually did something. Lily didn’t take anyone’s shit. Snape and James were both major jackasses in school. And the time that Snape called Lily a mudblood, she called them both out, she said she was done with both of them. The difference was that James meant nothing to Lily then, and his words didn’t hurt as much. Snape was her best friend. He promised Lily that her blood status didn’t make a difference to him and then called her a mudblood so he could look tough. Lily pushed James and Snape both away because they were both awful. James saw this and changed his behavior. He became a better person and made a point of being boyfriend material. He grew up and Lily recognized it. Lily told Snape her problems with his behavior flat out, She said she didn’t like what he was becoming. And don’t you dare tell me that “Snape apologized and Lily didn’t forgive him” because if Snape had changed his behavior and then apologized Lily would have accepted it. But Snape never changed. Lily didn’t immediately accept his apology and he just walked away. He became a Death Eater, despite Lily’s requests that he walk away from that life. Lily would have given him a second chance, if he wanted it bad enough.
Snape’s love for Lily wasn’t enough for her. The guy you should want to be with is James. Lily made a difference in James’s life, and he made changes for her, but not so much that it ever compromised who he was, he never gave up his friends or became a different person. Snape wasn’t willing to cut out the poisonous people and things in his life for Lily. That’s the most mediocre excuse for love I can think of. It’s not real. It’s not substantial, and it wasn’t something Lily could feel. Hell, it wasn’t even something Lily could see. Snape loved Lily from afar, and that will never be enough. Don’t wait for Snape, because Snape doesn’t do anything until it’s too late, hold out for James. And don’t be Snape, do something. Tell him/her that you love them, make your feelings clear, and be with the person who makes you the best version of yourself.
(I’d also like to point out that this post has Lily’s name as Lily Potter rather than Lily Evans which says a lot about James as compared to Snape in my opinion.)
If you read this whole thing, feel free to message me your opinion, I’m totally up for discussion, just don’t freak out on me.